Make Andora feel safe & supported Incl. Abbiegail

Notes:

Focused Calm Connection

Focused Presence

Reduce thinking level - it evokes  feeling, past .. future. My Body very still

Mindful- Put Andora & Abbie First

Reduce Thinking Level come to 

Realization Learning

Praise - Make Reward reflect her Acceptance of what I have to do

Focused Presence - Reduce her fears

Have her trust me to take care of her so she does not have to take responsibility herself and be so reactive 

Our still minds nurture trust

make he see things differently 

reward her when she trusts me

support her, give her time to let go of her fear. Create a safe environment.

Pressure does not create Connectiobn

Connection is stronger then control

Separation Anxiety - Fear

work with her, don't judge - reward good  behaviour licking lips... she is thinking, 

Her Yawning releases tension

Be Totally Present--- Still

Put them first.... change environment if something does not work.

Reduce her thinking level

Me: Be clear in my ask - reward - gratitude. (Distraction with food, she still has the fear) 

No dominance - Feeling is the main form of communication -

My exercise:

Finance                  10. Head Throat

Relationship          10  Heart

Andora/Abbie       10.  Heart

Weight/Strength   10   Tummy

Garage/Garden        8  Throat

5x a Day

think - feel - let go

re-focus ... 

FOCUS ON:

BODY BE VERY STILL

 SOUND (do not engage in thought) 

 TOUCH Be still...Be calm - meditative state..

RE- VISIT MY LIST OR BE WITH A & A

CREATE A STATE OF CALM LEARNING AROUND A & A & B & PEOPLE & MY PROBLEMS TOO

Trusted c0-operation - working with gratitude. Make her realize the reward was for co-operation. 

CLEAR ASKING - NO DOMINANCE -REWARD FOR CO-OPERATION.