Licking is a sign that they are accepting the (your) feelingÂ
If she was relaxed around others horses, they would be too (horse being chased by other horses)
In step 2, we break things down so that when the mind gets up (say to a 6), you bring it back to 4 where they are aware but relaxed, and then thaking it another step further
The best time to move is when she is aware of you
When the horse moves away, you maintain a space where he can choose to come back to
Stroking and talking ruins it!
It only takes one person to change in a relationship for the whole dynamic of that relationship to change
Lady had such a need for Zac that it made him angry - Lady changed, Zac did not change, but responded to her change by not chasing her any more - suddenly he did not see her as a victim